Special Days

               Wondering again, thinking on what do I scribble today and how to write something interesting or may be not so interesting which would catch your eyes and leave a little question at the end making you think if it is really the way it is with you or should it have been the way this is or some other way…. Confused? So am I…. ha ha. I am not playing any puzzles today nor am I trying to puzzle you with my words. I was just trying to make you feel a bit relaxed as this one thought of mine is nothing serious to think of but at the same time it is indeed something you must have felt in your own lives too.

We have so many days of the year for celebrating blessed relations like Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and also Friendship Day. How many of us celebrate it on that particular day only and not the other days? I have a different way of thinking which I would love to share with you, and it depends on you if you agree with me or not. For me relationships have been very important, right from the very beginning and that is with my family and my friends. And I truly treasure every one of them and I would like to dedicate this blog to all of them whom I love and care for. I believe that we don’t need one particular day to make someone feel special and how important they are in our life rather I feel we can make them feel special in different ways and on different days or every day. There are many who aren’t very comfortable showing they care for their loved ones and that is where we all should be a bit open. A few genuine words of admiration or appreciation work like magic, a smile and a hug to your Maa or Dad or your friend creates an even strong bonding. Leaving a surprise gift for no particular occasion or leaving a hand written card,  note or sending flowers to your parents not for their anniversary would make them feel so special and think that you still care and love them and will always be with them at all the times. We are busy people and we have no leisure but how about stealing a few minutes from our busy schedule and calling up our loved ones and surprise them with your call. Personally I love receiving surprise gifts and giving as well. In fact we all love to be felt special, so why don’t we just try a bit harder to make the one we are close to feel how much we care for them not just on one particular day but any day or all days of the year. It is already May and Mother’s Day is approaching, so I guess many must have thought of buying something special for your Maa to make her feel how lucky you are to have her in your life. How about buying a surprise for your father too and making it a special day for both of them and not just for one of them so that they can cherish the moment and so can you? I am doing so and I will keep you posted on how their reaction was as well.

Just few last words, love yourself and love the ones who are with you and make them feel how much you love them for who they are and how they have been through your thick and thin times. Words play a vital role so converse more and don’t let any tiny thing break your relation. Celebrate days with your friends and family to make it a special day and not just by celebrating on special days.

Frozen Heart

         People today have a very busy life even to look around them on what is happening. So when we are doing nothing even then we have something to do to keep ourselves busy like listening to songs in our iPod or listening to our favorite RJ from our favorite show on the radio. I have indeed most of the times seen people keeping them self busy even in a crowded bus or train by pushing those earplugs and listening to music. So now people have time only for themselves but not for others and that’s the reason why most of us have become very cold towards others or should I say we have become so practical that many do not bother to even provide a little helping hand to the one who is in need. I have seen many a times that when I asked any stranger for help and I reply them back with a smile followed by a thank you, there are very few who smile back. I really find it weird but why have most of us become so cold in our heart? I do not understand that.

        I would like to share a few incidents which occurred while I was travelling in the local train. I have failed to understand how people can be so cold at times that they hardly care for the ones who are in pain. Here I am talking about one such thing which I have witnessed myself. It was a regular day when I was on my way to office so I got into the local train which I normally boarded every morning. It wasn’t overly crowded for a daily passenger like me but it would be for the rest who weren’t used to that crowd. I found my way in and luckily got myself a seat, definitely lucky day for me. A few seconds later I watched a mother and her daughter, who was pregnant struggle their way inside. The daughter was talking to her mother after getting in but she was simultaneously looking for a seat for herself and her old mother. But somehow she managed a little room for herself where she could comfortably stand but her eyes were wandering here and there looking for an empty seat or may be someone who could offer her one. There were young girls and ladies who were sitting in front of her but no one bothered to offer her a seat. Those girls were either busy listening to music on their iPod or gossiping or watching the view outside. No one even gave a look at that pregnant lady. I was sitting not too far and was watching her and the others around her. So unable to look at the sight I called that woman and offered my seat. There was another similar incident which I faced very recently while returning back home from office. Normally I don’t get to sit while returning back but that day there wasn’t much rush in the train so I easily got in and won myself a seat. Soon as the train crossed the station and arrived into the next, a very old woman made her way in and gasping for air. She was a lean old woman whose one hand was busy holding a very big heavy bag while there was another duffle bag which was hung on one of her shoulders. She was standing right in front of me looking busily here and there for a place where she could sit and relax and put aside her heavy luggage. But no one cared to see her tired face or bothered to offer her a seat. So this time too I called her and offered mine. There was another incident when I was in the bus going for my computer classes. There was a very young girl who was with her mother. The little girl was tired and could not stand anymore and kept looking at her mother. I felt really sorry for her so I called the girl and made her to sit on my seat. Immediately her mother pulled her hand and sat down. Poor little girl, her mother occupied the seat instead of her. I was in total awe and could not help myself but laugh at the lady’s behavior. There is just one more story I would like to share with you. This one too is something which happened in the local train with an elderly man who earns his living by signing songs and begging for alms. He carries a mandolin with him and sings typical Bengali folk songs which are mesmerizing to hear and it takes you to a different world when you listen to his songs. Very magical it is and soothing at the same time which really acts like one for me after a whole tiring day of work. Few women kept teasing him for getting inside the ladies compartment and making fun of him. I found it so absurd because the one who was making fun of the old man was not only the one who was laughing but there were others who joined her silly jokes too. How can someone laugh at someone that way? That is so terrible and annoying.

        All I am trying to say here is why have most of us become so insensitive and why do we not care about others who are in need or who are suffering. A bit of a help would not cost us much, isn’t it? Why is it that we look so coldly at the one who’s in need hoping and praying that the situation changes soon for that person without us trying to make any efforts to change it ourselves. I am not here to preach anyone but just take a moment and think for a while on how many times you have been so cold towards a stranger who needed your help.

What IF!!

This is the first time that I'm using the internet to put down my thoughts in the form of a blog. I really don't know how to start or what to write. But I have always wanted to write down the thoughts popping in my head every now and then but then I fear what if I goofed up.
What if? Lots of questions in our life which goes unanswered and only then we start wondering if life would have been better if we had something else or if we had taken a diffenrent decision. And at these times these are the two words which keeps me confused making me go wild. Questions keep on coming but seldom has there been some questions which were answered. I would like to share a few questions which normally keep coming in my mind. The first question is, "What if I were born on a different date or a different place then would I have been more lucky than I am now or things would be different?" I really dont know if I am the sole person on this earth who thinks this but sometimes this question really keeps playing on and on in my head. Its like someone playing the same song again and again, though this question is not an interesting one for me. He he he.......

Another question is, "What if I had more money or luxury or fame, then would life be easier, interesting or boring?" I guess this is a common question which must be playing in everyone's mind like it plays in mine. Though I have no answers to my former question but I know the answer for the latter. Neither money nor fame can get you happiness. Happiness comes from within and being with your loved ones, the more you love yourself and the people around the more you will receive it and the more happy you will be. I know this is something which everyone of you must have heard of or read about but only a few among us practice this in real life. No matter how troubled we are in our lives or no matter how difficult the situation gets if we have the spirit to fight with it head on then there would not be a single instance in life when we would feel let down of lonely in life. When I am down I normally talk it out to my closest friends or family. So people keep the conversation on and also the love and laughter flowing freely so that problems will just wash away in it soon as it pops in.  he heh.....